A passion for creating a safe space.
For many that suffer from a mental health illness at some point, it can feel very scary to face it, let alone talk about it with someone else.
So I created this as a safe place to perhaps see things from a different perspective. To see that whatever mental health problem you have suffered with, it was your emotions trying to protect you from something.
So who am I?
I too have suffered with my own mental health over the years. After having counselling, only to find they didnt have the answers I was looking for. Seeing a psychiatrist, and again, coming away none the wiser. I was left with the feeling there was clearly something fundamentally wrong with me. What I didnt realise, i was looking for someone else to give me the answers.
How did I find the answers?
I am not being dismissive of counsellors or psychiatrists. I have the highest respect for them and the knowledge they had to learn in order to become qualified. However, talking through the pain and challenges life had given didn’t help me understand or get past the feelings of not being good enough, or thinking I was destined to suffer forever.
By blind chance.
I signed up for a course I believed would teach me how to be a coach.
What it actually did was show me what I had believed about myself most f my life.
Not through talking to me. Instead by asking questions that allowed my mind to find the answers I had all along.
Where did it lead to?
Learning and understanding how I had given meaning to events that happened in my life. Believing that what happened said something about me as a person, and that I did not deserve to have anything better. I took it all personal, when in truth, it never was.
Peace and happiness
Once I realised this, I finally found peace. I wasn’t a problem that needed to be fixed. I was enough and had been all along. I just could not see it because of the meanings I had given since childhood and never questioned them, as though they were absolute truths.
A new beginning.
Now I work with others and guide them to find the answers they have inside them. Through my process called The ARISE Method, they also learn the beliefs and stories they have held onto and never questioned. You never know where the right question will lead…
Who would you be if you had a choice?
Many speak of freedom of choice, yet few rarely understand what that actually means.
We think in terms of getting a new job, partner, or health but never in terms of choosing how we think, feel and act on a daily basis.
You can choose how you want to feel, not by force, but just with a thought.
When did last feel happy and content?
Chances are, something came to mind. Perhaps a time when you took a chance on a new relationship, or maybe ending one! A move, a holiday, a time when you succeeded at something new.
And when you thought it, how did you feel in your body?
Perhaps a warm feeling, a softening, a feeling of joy?
The ARISE Method
- Awareness
- Release
- Identity
- Shift
- Embody
The ART of Healing
- Accept
- Release
- Trust
“Working with Nicki was truly transformational. She stands out because shes walked the walk. Her program comes from lived experience, which makes every conversation feel safe, grounded and insightful. She guided me to the answers that was in me all along”
Susan Thomas
Manager and Business coach.
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